Some very wise words from a dear friend "A Wisdom Keeper" about Happiness and Joy.
Enjoy... ;) ~OT
Happiness is a flash in the pan compared to Joy.
Happiness is like burning paper, it makes a big flame, but produces little heat and doesn't last very long.
Joy is like a campfire or fire in the fireplace where you have a big, dense log fully burning, it may not throw off big flames, but it is burning throughout and is glowing red and is producing good heat and will do so for quite some time.
Happiness is what you feel from the effects of drugs, alcohol, sex or some mundane level activity or accomplishment. In these things you might even manage a wee bit of actual Divine / spiritual connection as there may indeed be a temporary breakdown of the barrier around the pineal and pituitary glands. And yet it is fleeting.
Then comes the hangover or withdrawals or that job or whatever outward accomplishment comes to an end. Now what? You were hinging your happiness on this thing that went away or that you're now paying not-so-pleasant consequences for.
In the case of sex, there is an exchange of energy between partners. That's great if you've been selective about your sex partner and better yet if you find a partner who will work through issues with you - yours, theirs or the relationship's issues, but if you willy nilly "do anything that moves", then just what all issues of theirs are you taking on? As if your own plate weren't full enough already.
As if it weren't challenging enough to figure out your own stuff but now you mix in one or more other person's issues, which you don't even have the background info on. High drama anyone?
Alcohol has a similar effect of breaking down boundaries. It's that "I love ya man" feeling, but with no discernment, no discrimination, no differentiation, no selection.
Hell, your drinking buddy may as well vomit all over you in the process so you at least have some outward indication of what is really happening between you energetically.
Even so-called "spirituality" can be used for avoidance of healing and Divine connection. Are you following someone else instead of making your own path? Are you consuming every channeled message you can get your hands on like someone in a hotdog eating contest instead of establishing your own Divine connection which is tailored just for you?!
Are you looking for that healer or that "DNA activation meditation" audio track that makes you think you can just "plug and play" your way to Heaven... when only your real inner work will have true and lasting effects... and you won't even have to be consciously aware that your DNA got activated.
Now, with the proper intention, one can indeed use all these things in beneficial and enlightened ways. But one can achieve the enlightenment and the Divine connection WITHOUT these things.
Unfortunately most people are not USING these things for their evolution but are AB-USING them as a distraction, as an escape, as a way to avoid themselves, their issues and their own healing. And just like a drug addict, they want their "fix". They want instant gratification.
What would serve them better and longer would be to do the REAL work, the INNER work of healing their dis-empowered dysfunction and make real, solid Divine connection.
Genuine healing will stick with you, you'll have that under your belt, the old wounds and dysfunctions and fears will literally be a thing of the past, no longer haunting you.
And true Divine connection will get you through challenges that no drink, drug, job, mundane accomplishment or booty call will ever get you through.
Ask to do the real work and mean it. Commit to it.
When the process arrives, go with it and don't fight it, don't look for the addictive "fix" that's going to make you feel "happy" and help you escape the issues that will still be there after you "come down" off your instant gratification trip.
It may be slightly different for everyone, but having said that, don't get caught up in old ego programming (issues / programming, not that the ego itself is "bad", get over that dogma while you're at it) thinking you're oh, so unique and what everyone else in the world has success with won't work for you. Learn to recognize when you're guided to something or when the Divine has sent you a messenger. Then follow the guidance.
Check for resonance. Resonance often comes with a strong emotional response. But that may not be in the form of all things warm and fuzzy. It may not be that you agree with it. It may not be that you just love to hear it. It may be your initial out and out hatred and rejection of it.
Your PROGRAMMED ego may be fearing change and is doing everything it can to hold onto the old ways. It's not that your ego is bad. Your ego cares about your survival. Due to the programming it received in this world, the ego may wrongly interpret what is required for survival. It may think that what it has been doing actually works because hey, you're still here.
All ego is your sense of self. Where people go wrong with ego is by allowing others outside themselves to determine their sense of ego. Much of that often happens at a young age, as soon as your feet hit the ground. Not your "fault", but your soul absolutely knew the job was tough when it took it.
It also knows that every human has what it takes to heal. Other souls played a role in activating your wounds and dis-empowered programs, and some souls can and will play a role in your healing.
Your ego can be worked with. It can be cooperative and it might help if you quit trying to "kill" it.
Your pain and suffering are also offering some valuable information to you. Like the old joke about, the man says, "Doctor, it hurts when I do this." The doctor says, "Don't do that." So just what exactly is that old conditioned, programmed "that" which you are to quit doing to make the pain go away more permanently and not just for a few minutes or hours.
Tap into that soul-centered quality called Joy and also utilize that other soul-centered quality called Courage to be in this for the long haul, for the long-term effects, the true solution, resolution and evolution, not just the quicky, "fix", instant gratification "flash in the pan".
A Wisdom Keeper